Thanksgiving at my parents’ house can get a little crazy. I’m Indian and come from a big extended family. Not that this necessitates the crazy, but it certainly helps explain some of it. We rarely have less than twenty people in attendance, most of which stay for the weekend. We have family, friends, friends of family, friends of friends of family, and the occasional “who’s that guy?”.
It is not how much we do,
but how much love we put in the doing.
It is not how much we give,
but how much love we put in the giving.
- Mother Teresa
When it comes to impatience, I am my own favorite subject of frustration. I wonder what possesses me to engage in unhelpful behaviors. Why do I worry and agonize so much about the smallest of things, paralyzed to act. And when am I going to get my act together and further myself towards The Plan? What is The Plan, anyway? I’m this old and STILL don’t know? What have I been doing with my life? Hastily, I try to remember what I’ve accomplished but nothing seems to stand out. In this frustrated mode, all I see are the hours I’ve wasted avoiding doing anything at all. I’m a fraud.
But this month, I’ve been spending time reflecting. Slowing down enough to ask myself some important questions about who I am. This has meant looking back to who I was and following the progression forward. Not a quick glance, but a thoughtful examination.
I see how each decade of my life has been impacted by hardships without my control.
I see all the choices I made to cope, recover and take care of myself the best way I knew how.
I see the successes I had dismissed as not being as great as others seem to believe.
I see the fortitude and resolve I have within me.
I see the knowledge, the wisdom and the compassion.
Most of all, I see myself as I am. Light and shadows. A work in progress. Much to give and worthy of getting. A good person deserving of patience, truth and love. Just like everyone else.
Trading in “should”, “need”, and “must” for “can”, “want” and “will”.
I just found this wonderful documentary site about great people who rescue animals and the animals who rescue them. I love the photography and presentation that complement the truly touching stories. Why We Rescue
I haven’t read a lot of the Tao Te Ching, but a lot of what I have read has resonated deeply. Here are some that are speaking to me, now.
A violent wind does not last for a whole morning; a sudden rain does not last for the whole day.
Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are.
When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.
Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.
Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.